If the thought is electric current and our tongue is a transmitter, we need solid connection wires. Without them, thoughts come from the brain to a language with interference, and even a prepared speech can turn into an incoherent set of words.
There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just that in some cases it can hurt. Everyone evaluates your essence, and one of the criteria is your ability to communicate. Why do we have to scare away the “big shot” again?
Therefore, in order to always be on top and learn to express our thoughts competently, we will consider 3 directions of speech development at once. We will act in a complex way, because these directions are strongly interconnected.
3 criteria of quality speech:
- Quick sentence formulation
- Use of various words
- Expressiveness and confidence
Quick wording
Practice (the fastest and 100% way)
Both the muscle increases from exercise and the speed of articulation increases from practice. And if the muscle can still be pumped up with a magic powder or a shot, then speech is no longer possible. Which means you have to make an effort.
But there is a secret – boring practice will only hurt us. Strudging dictionaries, saving newspaper clippings and idling in front of the mirror will only repel the desire to self-development. That’s why we should only take on something that will be interesting. And you can try the following:
Take any word and give it a definition
For example, when you stand and wash the dishes, there’s not much to do, both hands are busy and all you have to do is think. That’s when you can practice.
Oh, spoon! A spoon is a voluminous, one-sided, convex object with the ability to put food in your mouth. Plate. A plate is a flat, rounded, material body that serves as a reservoir of food for humans. And so on and so forth in the same kind of way.
With this kind of foolishness, the brain forms cliches (pattern phrases) and then uses them to talk. It doesn’t have to formulate – you’ve already done it before – all it has to do is remember and put it on the tongue.
Read out loud
If you read at least several pages a day, you can read one page out loud. In this case the brain will not only see, but also hear a beautiful speech. Here again the memory works, forming the template blanks.
Start a diary or a blog.
Reading is good, but putting your thoughts on paper is even better. You seem to put a frame: if in your head you could change, turn and delete sentences, then on paper you have only one attempt.
You have the same attempt when you are talking, so this exercise is as close to reality as possible.
Talk about your actions.
Imagine yourself leading a cooking show when you’re making a sandwich, or being a car instructor when driving. The more you talk and gain speech, the easier it will be for you to express yourself later.
Don’t be afraid of discussion.
In a dispute is born not only the truth, but also the ability to express their point of view. It’s like chess: you analyse your opponent, attack his arguments, give yours – in general, it turns out to be a good training.
Agree that training with a living person is much better than training with a “pear” (in our case, with entries in the diary). Try to benefit from any situation, so do not miss an opportunity to take part in an argument.
Wisdom of all sages.
2 ears – 1 mouth. More listening, less talking. Speak without thinking, shoot without aiming.
All these aphorisms come down to one thing: before you say something, you need to listen carefully and think about your speech. It’s simple math: the less you talk, the less likely you are to say something stupid. The more you listen, the better you can think about it.
If you think and stretch your time, you’ll be fully armed:
You’re prepared for the questions of your interlocutor…
You don’t do boltology, but you pass on information briefly and on a case.
You express your thoughts consistently and you can more easily convince a person
In order to do all this, you need to make a thesis in your head – to determine what you want to say. Then, gradually cover them with sugar – arguments, justifications and answers to possible questions. And at the end, without too much water to express their thoughts, if necessary, explaining and illustrating.
Cheat sheet
In some situations, thoughts do not fit together, so you should have a plan “B”. That is, when you feel that you have lost a thread or lost the subject, you should smoothly jump out of the conversation or switch to a distracted object.
You’ll need the phrases you’ve prepared. You can come up with them yourself, or you can take them from the list below:
“Phew, I’ve worked so hard, it’s messed up in my head. Let me tell you later…” (Honestly admitting you’re talking about it)
“Well, that’s the story, I can’t remember everything anymore. You better tell me how Vovka is doing.” (Switch to the person you’re talking to and then ask questions)
“Oh, look at the car that drove by, I heard she had… “(Quickly switch to surrounding objects to come back and summarize)
“Okay, this is all empty. Let’s talk about the case…” (Reduce it to stupidity and focus on another topic)
These are the simplest and most versatile options. To dodge the conversation not so noticeably, you can come up with versions for your environment.
Vocabulary and variety
To build a house, you need bricks. You need words to articulate and express your thoughts correctly. Below we will consider the methods of vocabulary replenishment.
Food is hunted.
The easiest and most demanding option is reading books. And it is true: if you want to speak beautifully, you have to love literature.
But! We rarely need beautiful literary words. Ligaments, transitions and turns of speech are much more important. So you can read completely different books, the main thing is to like them.
If you like classics, the letters of great people will help you. In them, they communicate with their contemporaries and some expressions can be borrowed for themselves.
Another option is watching the lectures. They are good with a conversational style and the presence of the narrator. Unobtrusively you will adopt his manners: intelligently place accents, to pause and use bright comparative turns.
Choose the sphere of activity you are interested in and a worthy speaker. In this case, you will chase two hares at the same time: and knowledge will pull up, and thoughts will learn to express.
Exercise Game
Write down the word and match it with synonyms. You can do it in your mind, or you can have a competition between your family. Either way, no one loses and only improves your erudition.
Sync by honeybunny
To learn how to express yourself and replenish your vocabulary, you must immerse yourself in the appropriate society. You can do this in real life, or you can do it online. For example, you can try to watch speakers (as a variant of TED), video lectures, webinars. The main thing is to do it stably, so that the “wave of colloquialism” does not absorb the rudiments of intellectuality.
Memory development
Vocabulary requires good memory. The bottleneck is that it is difficult to train it on purpose and it will take a long time. So we will consider memory as a coming phenomenon.
What is the point? It’s not memory that needs to be improved to memorize, it needs to be memorized. Not to try to “inflate the brain” on purpose, but to try to fill it with useful information so that it will inflate itself.
That is, if you want to memorize a word, you should use it in your speech as often as possible and the result will be improved memory. The more words you learn and use, the easier it will be for you to memorize the rest.
Expressiveness and confidence
You can’t express your thoughts beautifully, sluggishly wagging your tongue. Just remember: at least once you admired a man who was insecure and thundering under his nose?
The other thing is charisma. The posture, the lively voice, the right accents and no confusion. To bring yourself closer to the model of the perfect speaker, you can use the following tips.
When you’re talking, don’t focus on yourself, don’t think about appearance. Concentrate on what you have to say.
Visualize the object, savor it with your knowledge. At first you’ll have to make an effort to hold your thoughts, but then it’ll be on the machine.
With this method you will reduce the level of excitement and fully invest in the conversation. The brain can only hold one thought at a time, and when you forget about the opportunity to talk or blunt it, the words will pour out themselves. This happens because the brain is fully focused on the conversation, which means it picks up sentences faster.
Voice recorder/cam
Write down your speech on electronic media to listen to it from the outside. First, the voice will appear unfamiliar, and second, you will hear your shortcomings immediately.
It can be:
Parasite Words
Long pauses
A lot of “water” in the conversation.
Uncertainty and voice weakness
Once you understand the problem, it’ll be easier to deal with. You will learn what to concentrate on, so that you do not try to improve everything at once.
Feel the mood
Say goodbye if the man wants to leave.
Change the subject if a man gets bored…
Show some knowledge if you have an important person in front of you.
Be on the same page with the man so he remembers you as a pleasant companion. You’ll stand out from the annoying and boring storytellers.
Don’t try to be liked.
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Naturalness is credible. The easier and more relaxed you take to yourself, the faster you’ll get into the conversation. And the easier it will be for you to express your desired thought.
Magnetism
Your speech should attract attention in every possible way. Somewhere you have to stop, somewhere you have to turn up the volume, somewhere you have to insert a retreat. Don’t let a man fall asleep, let him feel your story.
Here are a few quick ways to brighten up the conversation:
Actively gesticulate.
Include a mime
Insert anecdotes or stories
Highlight
Break down your speech into small paragraphs.
The most important thing is not to be shy! If emotionality comes from within, you’ll only win. This will show your honesty and openness, which will play into your hands in the future.
And lastly.
You can’t learn how to ride a bike without falling. Do not be afraid of mistakes and do not concentrate on failures. The interlocutor has his own problems, and he doesn’t care about your spans.
The person will either understand you or smile. But either way, he’ll forget about it in five minutes.
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Learning to express yourself is actually easier than it seems. Everything comes with a strong desire and ability to work. The main thing to remember: the chain can not be stronger than the weakest link, so pay attention to all points.
I wish you good luck!
onfidence is not fear of being real. You’ll only hurt your communication if you bend over and flatter yourself.
